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Happy Groundhog’s Day - I Guess

by Gabrielle on February 2nd, 2008

As a resident of Punxsutawney Phil’s home state, I wish you a Happy Groundhog’s Day, even though his prediction this year makes me sad:

“As I look around me, a bright sky I see, and a shadow beside me.
Six more weeks of winter it will be!”

Sigh.

At this point, it’s hard to separate our regional holiday from the movie with the same name where Bill Murray finds himself living the same day over and over again.

And it’s hard for me not to relate them both to the routine that women trying to conceive go through every cycle, every month:

“As I look at the stick on which I peed, no double lines do I see.
Yet another month of empty womb it will be!”

Sigh.

And sometimes this happens over and over and over again.

At what point do you say, you know what? This isn’t going to happen. At what point do you stop pumping dollars into the home pregnancy tests, the ovulation predictors, or if you’ve taken a more intensive route, the clomid, the IVF cycles, and everything else that comes with it? When does your Groundhog’s Day end?

For some, the answer is easy – “When I get pregnant. Duh. “

For others, this isn’t an easy question. At all. Obviously, there is no right answer. Nothing that will serve as a benchmark. The decision is entirely personal, based on more factors than I could begin to list here. And even after the decision to stop trying is made, there is still a lot of healing to be done.

At what point would you stop trying? When it becomes apparent that medical intervention is necessary? When it becomes clear that you won’t be able to have your own biological child? When additional steps are no longer financially feasible? When?

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